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Marianne Matthews was celebrating the birth of her first child Eric when, within weeks, he had died after having been carried in a baby sling. Marianne explains what happened.

I write this blog in memory of my first child Eric, and with the hope that this message will help prevent more tragedies like ours.

Eric was four-weeks-old when he became unconscious while I was carrying him in a stretchy wrap baby sling – soft fabric that wraps around the chest and waist and holds baby, allowing a parent to keep their hands free as they go about their everyday tasks.

As a new parent, you get marketed at relentlessly with baby products. I wasn't fully aware of the risks involving baby slings, and you never think these kinds of tragedies are something that will happen to you. The dangers of slings were not mentioned in the antenatal classes we attended, or in any of the baby books we read. Maybe because baby slings are newly popular, safety warnings aren't yet part of the standard information given to expectant parents.

I bought a stretchy wrap sling online. It came with minimal instructions and had no safety label.

The safest method is in a carrier that keeps the baby solidly against the parent's body, in an upright position.

Everything happened so quickly and quietly I didn't realise that something was very wrong.

It was Christmas Eve 2013 and Eric was quite unsettled so I put him in the sling and took him out for a walk to the local shop. He started to get a bit hungry and I tried to breastfeed him whilst carrying him. I then decided to go home. At the time I thought Eric was just falling asleep.

Everything happened so quickly and quietly I didn't realise that something was very wrong. He had either choked or got into difficulties. By the time I got back, he had stopped breathing.

We called 999 and tried to resuscitate him. Sadly Eric never regained consciousness, and passed away in our arms a week later on New Year's Day 2014.

We loved Eric so much and wonder how things went so wrong. Eric was our first child, and as new parents, we were finding out what to do for the first time. Our inexperience was to have tragic consequences, sometimes love just isn't enough.

Eric is now a big brother, our little girl Sola Eden was born in October 2014, and she really is a miracle for me and my husband Bob, especially as we had her when we were still grieving. I have learned a lot from Eric. I'll never use a baby sling again. Safety is an absolute priority.

My advice is not to use a baby sling for a newborn baby – wait a few weeks until they are stronger and have more neck control. Don't be tempted to multi-task by feeding a baby in a sling and check for safety standards and warnings before choosing a product.

The part that concerns me most is that some slings are marketed as "breastfeeding slings". In my opinion, the feeding position is unsafe for baby (particularly a newborn) to be carried in, as they need to be kept upright to keep their airways clear. A baby trying to feed may make similar sounds to a baby struggling for breath, or make no sounds at all, and tragedy can occur in a minute or so. Added to this, the use of a sling while out and about may mean there are more distractions, and parents may not be fully aware of what's happening.

I hope other parents find our story helpful, and it can in some way prevent another avoidable death like Eric's from happening.


You can read more on RoSPA's detailed advice on baby slings.

Posted: 10/03/2016 12:53:10 3 comments
Filed under: baby sling, child, product


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17/02/2017 15:10:43

El

I'm really sorry for your loss.

New parents need support to understand how to use slings safely. There is a charity called the 'up project' who offer free support. There are hundreds of babywearing consultants across the UK, who will give support. Babywearing has a guidance code called TICKS, which is really helpful in helping care givers to understand babywearing and how to do it properly. We are given guidance on how to make up a bottle of formula, why not at least the contact details for a babywearing consultant from the HV?
There are some dangerous slings, these need to be made illegal, but please don't take away a vital tool for parents by labeling them all dangerous.

20/06/2016 13:29:45

Alex

This must have been very hard for you to cope with, I hope that you and your family are coping well with the passing of such a beautiful young child. RIP Leah....

05/05/2016 15:26:52

nathan jones

I know how you feel I lost three of my children to things I did not know where killers

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